How long is too long to wait?
So, you’ve met the man of your dreams. You love each other, spend days and nights together, finish each others sentences, days turn into months to even years only to find that one thing is still missing – a ring. You wonder why if everything is going so well he hasn’t proposed? There are a few possible explanations and types of guys you should be aware of when it comes to the big M.
The Plan Man: He’s not ready for marriage. He has a plan. These are coded sentences that mask the hard truth that no one wants to say to someone they care for: I don’t want to marry you at all. This is hard to swallow. If you can’t wait any longer, you should put yourself back on the market. You could wait but who knows how long it could be….
Oh my, He’s Shy: He has stated he wants kids with you and talks about your future as a couple but nothing has happened yet. Some guys need a little push. Sit down and start a discussion on how both of you feel about each other and where you see your relationship going. I know, you want him to do this on his own but it will help calm both of your nerves.
Wounded in Battle: He has been hurt before in a past relationship or marriage and is deathly afraid of it happening again. This guy can be tuff. Although, you guys make a beautiful couple, nothing will convince him to have a little faith until he moves on from the past. Unfortunately, you might be his rebound.
No one can say for sure how long is too long because every relationship is unique. I always hear those exception stories. There are enough of them out there to make you go mad. In general, if you have been blissfully together for 1 to 2 years with no engagement in sight, moving on may just be the next step to a happier life and finding that someone special. At any rate, it is time to have a ‘serious talk’ to see what’s behind the wait.