Four years ago today, my husband and I renewed our vows. After eloping two years before that when we were 18, our dream wedding came true after we scrimped, planned, and saved. It was a magical wedding and I very much felt like a princess. I do not believe I ever laughed so much in my life! My sister is getting married this month as well. After repeated phone calls from her about the flowers, the photographers, the bridesmaid dresses, our hair, the programs, I asked her if she felt like a “blushing bride.” The short answer is no. Although I loved my day, I remember all to well that I was stressed out the days and months leading up to that one whirlwind day. I didn’t fully relax until the ceremony when I was forced to sit down!
What I learned:
As long as a bride can muster the strength to let go of the control of the event she spent the likely part of the last year planning every detail down to the color of the napkins, she’ll be left with happy memories for a long time. When you get right down to it, it’s not about the centerpieces or where to seat Crazy Aunt Kim, it’s about two people marrying the person they love. If you can think about that fact, it won’t be hard to smile at all whether you’re a stressed out bride, a worried groom, an annoyed Bridesmaid, a tearful relative or simply a tired guest.
*If all else fails, watch this clip from the Rogers & Hammerstein’s Cinderella in 1965.
Six years later from when we eloped, our marriage is still going strong. While any couple will tell you the unhelpful, “Marriage isn’t easy” line, a happy couple will tell you it’s infinitely worth it.